You know that your milk is the best food you can give your baby, you inform yourself and you are ready to offer it when it is born. But breastfeeding is not always a path of roses, complications can arise, such as the baby does not hold well, it hurts, the baby cries and you cry because you have spent hours trying in a thousand ways.
This distressing photo that Angela Burzo shared on her Instagram profile (reproduced with her permission) reflects the frustration of that difficult time that some recent mothers spend the first days of the baby's life.
His second baby, Aylee Elizabeth, was born by caesarean section on July 26 and this photo was shared five days ago, with the following message:
"I love to see all these beautiful women with their beautiful breastfeeding lingerie smiling at their babies and looking at them lovingly as they take them by the hand and breastfeed. That is not my reality right now.
This is real and as much as I want to stay strong and be the soldier that I feel I can be, I can't hide the fight that is BREASTFEEDING. If it is not holding properly, if I am not producing enough milk to meet your demand, if my nipples may not be adequate, if we confuse it (the baby) by having to give a bottle after pumping ...
Whatever, is being an emotional and painful struggle. Today has been a day full of non-naps, sucking and not eating, crying and with frustrated parents. This picture represents my reality of this breastfeeding trip so far and that first grip and the pain I endure. Being realistic.
Thanks to all those women who came to my rescue even those who have not arrived. All your kind words and encouragement have been a blessing. "
I love seeing all these beautiful women in their beautiful nursing clothes smiling down at their babes as they lovingly look up back at them hand in hand while breastfeeding away. That is not my reality, right now that is. This is real & as much as I want to stay strong and be the soldier I feel I can be I cannot hide the struggle that is BREASTFEEDING. Whether she is not latching on properly, whether I am not producing enough milk to keep up with her demand, whether my nipples might not be adequate, whether we confused her with having to give her a bottle after pumping ... whatever it may be it has been an emotional & painful struggle. Today has been full of no naps, sucking and not eating, crying and frustrated parents. This photo depicts my reality of this Breastfeeding journey so far & that first latch & the pain I cure. Keeping it real. Thank you to all those women coming to my rescue even the times I didn't reach out. All your kind words & encouragement have been a blessing #nationalbreastfeedingweek #breastfeeding # ayleeburzo12daysold #fedisbest #inspire #keepingitreal #reality #thestruggleisreal #blessed #thankful #normalizebreastfeeding #reallife #realshit #breastmilk #breastfed
A shared publication by Angela Burzo (@burzolife) on Aug 7, 2017 at 7:17 AM PDT
Apparently, has managed to overcome the difficulties since two days later he shared a photo after a postpartum review in the gynecologist's office, breastfeeding his baby.
A shared publication by Angela Burzo (@burzolife) on Aug 9, 2017 at 4:47 p.m. PDT
What to do before a difficult breastfeeding start?
It is really an anguishing and hopeless moment for the mother who sees her baby cry without stopping and suffer, and then she also cries, entering a spiral of frustration that makes them consider resorting to the bottle, the fastest and easiest solution for Finish the suffering for both of you once.
Ideally, seek the help of professionals who know about breastfeeding, consultants or breastfeeding support groups or IBCLC (International Board Certified Lactation Consultant), certified breastfeeding consultants to help the mother overcome difficulties providing emotional support and advice.
The most common problem at the beginning of breastfeeding is a bad baby grip to the chest, which prevents it from sucking properly and getting milk. That is why it is so important to breastfeed in the first hour of life and look for a good posture from the zero minute: your chin and nose should be attached to the chest and the entire nipple and part of the areola inside the mouth. The bad grip produces pain and cracks in the mother's nipple that can make breastfeeding unbearable.
With help and patience, you can get over it and so the difficult start will be in an anecdote. But neither should the mother be blamed or judged if she opts for the "easiest solution" to bottle feed her. You have to put yourself in her place and understand her despair, her tiredness, her frustration at seeing her baby suffer. It is something that no mother supports and you can't judge without being in place.
