One of the things that no father (or mother) wants to happen to his son is to be harassed at school. And another, that he is not the one who harasses other children, because of the pain of knowing that something has failed his education if he has the need to harm others.
A woman, a nurse by profession, received an important call from the institute asking her to appear as soon as possible, because his daughter had punched a boy in his class, causing a wound that made him bleed (and it is already known that the blood is very scandalous). Arriving, he left them all ashamed after discovering why his daughter had done it.
A call to work
The story was shared in January in Not Always Learning and internet curiosities, it's now when it's going viral, as it reaches more and more people.
It all started when she (the mother) was working, in the emergency room of a hospital where they are not allowed to have the mobile phone with them. Unable to receive the call, from the institute they chose to call the hospital directly. And she tells it like this:
Phone: "Hello, I am your daughter's teacher. There has been an incident with her; we need her to come."
I: "Are you sick or injured? Can you wait for my shift to end in two hours?"
Phone: "He has hit another student. We have been trying to contact you for 45 minutes. He is quite serious."
(I go to the institute and accompany me to the principal's office. I see my daughter, her tutor, a teacher, the principal, a child with blood around her nose and red face, and her parents.)
Director: "Madam (my name), how kind of you that you could FINALLY join us."
I: "Yes, things are complicated in Emergencies. I have spent the last hour putting 40 points on a 7-year-old boy who has been beaten by his mother with a metal ladle, and then I have had to attend the police about the event. I'm sorry for the inconvenient".
Apparently, the boy managed to unfasten his daughter's bra
(After seeing how he tries not to appear ashamed, he tells me what happened. The boy has unfastened my daughter's bra and she has punched him in the face. I have the impression that they are more angry with my daughter than with the boy).
I: "Oh. And they want to know if I'm going to press charges against him for sexually harassing my daughter, and against the institute for allowing him to do so?"
(Everyone gets nervous when they hear me talk about sexual harassment and start talking at the same time.)
Teacher: "I don't think it was for so long."
Tutor: "Let's not give it more importance than it has."
Director: "I think we are leaving the subject."
(Then the boy's mother starts crying. I turn to my daughter to know what happened.)
My daughter: "He kept pulling on my bra. I asked him to stop, but he didn't, so I told the professor. He told me to ignore it, but he did it again until he managed to unfasten my bra and hit him. Then it stopped. "
(I turn to the teacher)
I: “Have you let him do that? Why haven't you stopped him? Come here and let me touch the front of your pants. "
Teacher: "Not!".
I: Do you find it inappropriate? Why don't you go and pull the tutor's bra right now? Look at how much fun it can seem to her. Or do it with the bra of the boy's mother. Or with mine. Do you think that being a child is fun? "
Director: “Madam (my name). With all due respect, that does not change the fact that your daughter has hit another child. "
I: "Do not. She has defended herself against sexual assault by another student. Look at it; He is much taller and weighs almost twice as much as my daughter. How many times did he have to let him touch him? If the person who is supposed to help and protect her in class does not care, what should she do? He pulled his bra so hard that he unfastened it. "
(The boy's mother is still crying and the father also seems angry and embarrassed. The teacher does not look at me. I turn to the principal).
I: “I take it home. I think the boy has learned a lesson. And I hope that nothing like this will ever happen again, not only to my daughter, but to any girl in this institute. They wouldn't allow it to any teacher, so I can't understand what the reason is for a 15-year-old girl. I will talk about this to school board members. And if you, "I said to the boy," you touch my daughter again, I will have you arrested for sexual harassment. Have you understood me? "
(I was so angry that I took my daughter's things and left. I talked to the School Council, where I meet several people with whom I agree in the church (it is a Catholic school), and they assured me that they would take strong measures in this matter In addition, I spoke with the higher school body, who were equally horrified and assured me that they would contact the school. My daughter has been changed class, away from the teacher and the boy).
When a punch is worse than bullying and sexual abuse
Why are there still children who bully others? Well, in large part, because allowed. Of course there are professionals and centers that act diligently and clearly. But there are also professionals and centers that look the other way and that, like the bad parents, who when two children fight say they are children's things, they are bad teachers and educators who consider that it is not so much.
Of all the adults who gathered at that meeting, only the mother considered what happened unforgivable. Everyone felt worse the pain and blood of the child than the act that motivated everything.
The guilty ones? The boy, of course, and The teacher. The one who instead of acting on the stalker told the victim to ignore him. Regrettable. And even more regrettable that the director and the tutor stood on his side.
Bravo for the mother, and bravo for explaining it so that all fathers and mothers can read it and understand what things happen inside certain colleges and institutes.
