I was a mother who gave a bottle and did not want to do it. For a few months, my premature baby was not hooked to the chest. And I know that if I could relate it was because a host of circumstances and support helped me. But that I could have perfectly had to continue with the bottle and have given all my love to my son with him.
When I was pregnant I thought "I will breastfeed if I can." That "if I can" was a fully accepted conditional. I really believed that not all women have milk. I also didn't know much more. Then life surprised me and the problems of my breastfeeding were things that I did not even anticipate that they existed.
I managed to relate, but as I say, I consider it a gift of destiny that wanted me to achieve it. But I still feel that I know what it is to bottle feed. But I also know that I had overcome it and that my arms and my kisses would have compensated my son for the lost breastfeeding. Perhaps, to protect myself, I would have forgotten what hurt me and would say that it was not so important in reality. I understand that mothers who have bottle fed against their desire They can feel judged with the defense of breastfeeding. We have to protect ourselves from something that hurts us and above all, for the sake of our little ones, move on with love and enjoy motherhood.
I also dedicate much of my life to promote breastfeeding. I know many women who wanted to breastfeed, who were totally convinced of the benefits of breastfeeding and even had support and information. I have seen how some of them have not succeeded. I feel greatly attached to them. They are wonderful mothers, fighters to the limit of their ability, loving and dedicated.
I also know many mothers who have not been able to breastfeed, usually, although it is difficult to admit, because they received bad information. They could. But something failed. Weaning for medical treatments that could be compatible with breastfeeding, for false hypolactias due to erroneous advice, for believing false myths such as holding in arms, breastfeeding whenever the child wants or sleeping with him are harmful, for lack of help of their families, because they were overwhelmed and exhausted and nobody knew or could support them.
Every time a baby is hungry and without even observing a shot by an alleged expert, a little help is prescribed instead of indicating shots in real demand and without a clock, every time they send water or infusions, every time they impose breaks nocturnal, every time artificial milk is given for alleged failures of composition or quantity of breast milk, each time, someone sets the basis for the end of a lactation that could surely have continued.
It is hard to come to admit that something has been stolen and that we let them do it. But breastfeeding is stolen. They have crushed us with false messages that artificial breastfeeding is good. Have you ever wondered if this product had the same controls as a new medicine? Well no, they are not made. They have never done it. And they have put it into us for decades as if it were the panacea that solves the problems of breastfeeding, not to mention the ones it brings.
What mother wants to give something bad to her children? But you have already seen what has happened in China, are we really safe? I do not believe it. And I think that artificial breastfeeding has harmful negative effects on public health that we should know even if we have been forced to resort to it and our children are healthy ...
The producing companies They earn billions a year by selling this milk that they mercilessly advertise and even skipping with impunity the deontological codes that govern their sale. Thousands of millions. And so it has been for many years.
But of course a child can grow up healthy and happy with a bottle. Here I am, who didn't give me a shot. My mother always thought it was because of the shape of her chest. But no, it's not like that, the person who attended her didn't know what she was saying. And he could not breastfeed with great sorrow. He gave me the best he could and knew. But not the best, because they stole it because of ignorance or the interest of some large companies that profit from the failure of the lactation of so many mothers that with help and information if they could breastfeed.
Almost all of you could breastfeed. You could not. Reasons: health personnel without training, a society that does not really believe in the importance of breastfeeding, thousands and thousands of false advice and myths, lack of real support from families and not having a network of women. It was better, much better, to have breastfed and it is valid to be sad and angry for not having succeeded. That's why you have to help nobody else go through that. If a woman wishes to breastfeed, she has the right to be sustained, helped and informed, which you did not have.
There is something that happens and that women who are engaged hurts a lot. When talking about the benefits of breastfeeding and the damage of the bottle, blisters jump and someone always says "¿Do you think we are worse mothers for bottle feeding?"What do we do wrong in transmitting the message? Because precisely one of the reasons why mothers commit to promoting breastfeeding is because of so many desired lactations that could not be.
There's also mothers who decide not to breastfeed. For them it is necessary that they receive all the truthful information about breastfeeding, so that their decision, which is theirs, is not marred by falsehoods. They and their babies also deserve our respect and work, so that what they decide is truly what they have decided with everything they need to know. Many reasons will cause a mother to discard breastfeeding, and that is why it is also necessary to offer them enormous respect. I do not consider myself anyone to judge them, although I argue that breastfeeding is the best for babies and believe that we are being torpedoed by the industry that defends their interests. They are responsible and their motives nobody but they feel and know them, although surely their motives are born from those false myths and the lack of support for the conscious motherhood that we all suffer.
Sometimes I think it is necessary to repeat very loudly, when breastfeeding is defended, something that is more than obvious. Mothers who bottle feed are as good mothers and love their children as those who breastfeed. Precisely for them and their babies and for others like them breastfeeding is defended, so that no one is deprived of it without need. I respect you, whatever way you give food. I do not judge you.
Love deserves it. A mother's love counts, more than the way we feed babies, though for them there is nothing better than the chest. Sometimes I feel that, as much as I advocate breastfeeding, it must be said loud and clear. Nothing feeds like love.
