When we talk about conciliation, although we are moving forward little by little, we know that in many countries we still have a long way to go. But in addition to talking about the needs of families to obtain better schedules to better balance their work and family life, we must also talk about what mothers who work outside the home feel.
In a recent investigation conducted in European countries, it was found that Spanish mothers are the most guilty of not being able to spend more time with their children, as well as other important facts about his feelings regarding conciliation and motherhood.
According to the latest European study prepared by Sitly, an international platform that brings families with nannies in nine countries around the world, for mothers in Spain the lack of conciliation and the feeling of guilt go hand in hand.
In Babies and more, we are mothers, but we also have personal aspirations and we should not feel guilty about itIn the aspect of combining your work and family life, the report shows that most mothers have problems trying to do it. In Spain, 44% of mothers think it is almost impossible, while in other countries, such as Italy, this is believed by 23% of mothers.
There is a notable difference with other northern countries where there are better conciliation measures, such as Finland, where 35% of mothers consider it easy to do, while in Switzerland and Belgium 81% think that although it has some difficulties, conciliation is possible.
As for the fault, 75% of Spanish mothers feel guilty for not being able to spend more time with their children, but also, 69% of them feel selfish in admitting that they would like to have more time for them.
In Babies and more, why shouldn't we feel guilty of wanting time alone for ourselves?At the point of having time for them, 91% of Spanish women say they are so busy with work and family and household responsibilities, that having a space for this is something they can't find, while 69% of them regret that the little time they have "free" ends up being devoted to housework.
But even if they feel bad, the reality is that it is not their fault, but of the lack of conciliation, but also, of the pressure exerted by society, with that outdated concept of the selfless "good mother" who leaves everything for the children.
From the results of this investigation we can obtain two main conclusions. The first is to continue fighting to achieve that desired reconciliation. And the second, that we must continue to encourage mothers not to feel guilty for wishing time for them and for their personal aspirations.
