After having Guim, my third child, there are people who dare to ask me, afraid of answering yes, if I will have more children.
The calm and tranquility comes to their faces when I answer no, that it is already decided, decided, for several reasons, specifically eight, which I will now explain: why I am NOT going to have more children.
Because I had always thought of having three children
I have always thought that the ideal number of children is at least three. One has always seemed little to me, two have always thought it was a dangerous number, I guess because my cousins were two and they were always fighting, and from three it seemed an ideal number because there would always be one that unbalanced the balance. Once I have reached my ideal number I feel that I have fulfilled (with me, with society, with my own children ...).
So they don't ask me if I'm from Opus
They haven't asked me much, but there are people who have hinted at it. Formerly it was Opus who had 5, 6 or more children (I would say). Now, as with 3 children we are already a large family, it seems that the ideal is "the couple" and that every child who comes too much is because there is some type of contraceptive or similar conviction. And no, I'm not from Opus or want to be.
So they don't think we're going for the girl
I have a neighbor who every time she sees us (bad memory, I think), reminds us that we have three boys because "of course, you went for the girl and see what happens, now three children", as if we had fallen a curse or something like that. And ale, he tells you so with a joking tone, but he will let go whenever he sees you. Next time I think I will tell him that he is wrong, that what we wanted was to go for the child, to have three of the same sex.
Anyway, people have been seeing us with the child and have encouraged us to have another child, let's see if the girl is born in the end. Since we were not going for anything in particular, but simply wanted to have another child, it is absurd to try to have another child to see if she is a child. Besides, it sure would be another child.
Because I know it would not be a quiet baby
I know they exist, I've seen them. I know they exist, I was one of them. There are babies, not many, who are calm in general. They cry little, they easily adapt to anything, they can be awake in the stroller and suddenly realize that they have fallen asleep, eat well, like to go in a stroller and like to go by car. Come on, the baby that every father and mother would want.
I thought that babies were like that before they became a father, because in a way it is what is sold as normal, but immediately after having my first child, I realized that babies were not really like that.
I was hoping to have a second like that, but there was no luck. A little quieter and less demanding than the first one was, but it was not to throw rockets ... at all it became like me as a child, who sometimes doubted if it existed because he did not cry or when he had to cry.
Then I had the hope that the third did take my genes, but there was no luck either. Guim is the same pattern as his brothers. The three are traced to each other and the three are traced to their mother, having taken much of their genetics. I guess it is not necessary to clarify that Miriam, as a child, barely slept 4 or 5 hours at night. The rest was one from here p'allá and one from there pacá, come on, a bad sleep that his parents overcame as well as they could.
Because we would start having space problems at home
Where two fit three fit, and where five fit, as six can fit. But of course, this rule comes a time that must have an end ... and in my house we put it in the five. Now we are two adults and three children who are getting bigger (and older) and increasingly occupy more (they and their stuff), and then they will have to have their own table and even ask for their own space, which will not be possible because There are not three rooms for them. If we have another baby we would start having space problems, most likely.
Because I want to move on to the next stage
I am 33 years old and I had my first child with 26 years. I have been with babies for about six and a half years, if I consider them between 0-3 years. When Guim turns 3, I will take 9 years taking care of my children as babies and, although I like and enjoy it, I also want to move on to the next stage. Turn the page of babies and start seriously with the page of children, with watching them grow, with leaving behind drool and diapers and welcoming what has to come. I do not say that it will be better, or worse, or quite the opposite. They are simply the desire to change customs with them, with all three at once.
Because older people also need time
A little related to the previous point is this. Older people need dad time and mom time. There are many times that we have to say "now I can't" because we are with the little one and in a way I feel like I'm not giving Jon and Aran all the time they deserve.
The more brothers they have, the more children we have, the less time will be left for them. I was the room of six children and they raised me among all, but I spent time with my parents. Between that it was already the room and that I also did not complain ... and I do want my children to remember that their parents were with them when they were little and also when they grew up (and I want to spend more time with them, I miss it in many moments).
Because it is already impossible
It is clear that I will NOT have a room because it is already impossible to have it.
