They say that when you're a father you don't have time to get bored. When children are young, their dependence on us is practically constant, day after day we must be there to cover their basic needs, such as food and safety, but also make sure they receive the love and attention they deserve.
All this makes our day to turn around them and that most of the time we enter into a routine of park, games, bathrooms, dinner and sleep. Is this routine a constant when you are a father?
The routines in our life help us make it more or less manageable. When we know what we are going to do at a given moment, it gives us a sense of order in our lives that in turn brings us a certain sense of security. But when the routine goes from being a constant in our lives to being our life itself can bring unpleasant consequences.
Not everyone supports the routine in the same way
Not everyone likes to always do the same, from Monday to Friday one thing, on Saturdays visit grandparents, on Sundays to the park and stroll. This can be a perfect planing for many, there may be others who feel drowned, or rather we could talk about feeling locked up.
There are those who have lived their entire lives in a constant movement, who have never done the same for a long season and encountering a more monotonous life can make them have mixed feelings.
Children, are they to blame?
Some people believe that being a father forces them to change the kind of life you lead, that children need a certain routine to feel safe and that being around all day without knowing what will come next is not good for them.
But I don't think the problem is with the children, or at least not all the fault. Knowing what is going to happen next can help in a child's day-to-day life, knowing that after the snack he will be able to play, or that the end of the day will be marked by a little while with dad or mom reading him a story, that the next day you can see your friends again, etc. All this makes the child feel safe in his life, especially when he grows up, but if this causes us to end up becoming automatons of our own routine, it will surely not be much fun anymore.
It is our day to day, accumulated fatigue, our problems that often turn our heads for days, which are causing us to get more and more into the routine.
We are up to hell and we do not need more, we have neither desire nor energy to start a new game or react properly to their tug of war or what is the same to some children who are half-powered when we are already in the reserve.
The whiting that bites its tail
It is precisely this lack of energy that makes us enter the routine and routine that causes us to dedicate less and less energy to our day to day. And so it is harder and harder for us to hang out with friends for a drink or just to share a park afternoon or a snack at home.
This routine is the one that is gradually becoming established and owning our lives so that they are reduced to being mere passengers on a train that others carry.
I do not think that being parents or does not affect our lives are monotonous, in fact children are the least monotonous that exists and it is up to us to find a way to make those small changes in our day to day that will make us feel more happy
