You are a more or less free woman who works, has a partner, a flat and who enjoys going out there on weekends, reading, traveling, doing recreational activities, and all based on what you more or less want to do in each moment. One day you decide that it is a good time to be a mother, and a few months later you give birth to your first child. And suddenly your life changes in a way that you never even imagined in dreams, becoming the person to whom the baby claims almost every hour to the point that you get to feel "a dairy cow" or a "walking tit".
The feelings are not really analogous, but they are related. As they can be differentiated a little (I think), we are going to talk about them separately and thus we see how they differ and how they resemble, being possible to feel only one, both, or none.
I feel like "a dairy cow"
A dairy cow is one that nurses its offspring and that, in addition, is milked frequently to provide milk to the dairy industry and humans as final consumers of milk and its derivatives. Let's say that a dairy cow is not what can be said "a free animal", because its existence and its feeding become very controlled so that they can perform their function with the greatest effectiveness and efficiency.
As well, it is normal for a mother to feel this way, little free (what mother is?) breastfeeding every hour or every two hours to a baby who has quite enslaving behavior towards the mother, come on, if you have to compare between a farmer and a baby, I would say that the first ones can Become more friendly and considerate:
- A baby has no wait, cries and if it does not have the "udder" available it can become very red and scream like a possessed.
- Anger can poop over.
- It does not give rise to any type of negotiation. In fact, if you give him a non-food silicone substitute, aka pacifier, he won't hesitate to spit it out.
Did breastfeeding make you feel like a dairy cow? You are not alone. And if you take it with humor and accept that role, you can still feel less alone, because I believe that all mothers, at one time or another, have come to make a comment like this: "My mother, sometimes I feel like a dairy cow, all day with the tit out and with the baby, come and ask for more production. As we continue, I build a breast milk factory and start packing it. "
Now, if you suggest a "well, give them a bottle" they say "no man, this is a thought out loud and joking, so I do not give a bottle."
But ... if that being a cow must be a bad thing, right?
I put it because by writing about the cows I have remembered the lousy article that a few years ago published "The World", with a headline with which they intended to generate controversy ("The Age of the Cow Mothers"), written by Carmen Machado, who I imagine he didn't have much luck with breastfeeding and took advantage of his position as a journalist to bundle it against nursing mothers.
If they got angry or not, I don't know. Many mothers complained because they felt insulted, but many others simply saw that funny moment portrayed when you do, you feel like a dairy cow, and as more than one said: "and to much honor". Come on, that at that time many nursing mothers took advantage of the photos and said yes, that they were mothers and cows and that they wanted to continue being so.
And hey, if anyone is still offended by being called a cow, as if it were better for a baby to drink artificial milk or cow's milk, to look at this photo for a few seconds (not many), and that's it, sure you prefer to give the chest:
I feel like "a walking tit"
But well, let's stop controversial, although the interesting thing is not the same, but how the sense of humor can break down any border, and we move on to the next feeling of a nursing mother, when you look like a tit. "I am a tit." And when I walk, "I am a walking tit".
Why that feeling? Because there comes a time in the upbringing in which the baby shares time with the mother and also with the father and other people, and as she has a good time with those other people who are not mom, she is relegated, in a way, to the moment tit (not true, eye, but sometimes has that feeling):
- The baby plays alone, goes exploring, touches whatever he feels like and when he feels lonely or hurts, he calls mom to give him a tit.
- The baby is with the father playing, and as dad does not watch him like mom, he hits himself with anything, cries and calls mom to give him a tit.
- The baby is with the father playing, he sleeps and calls mom to give him a tit.
- The baby is with the grandmother playing, but she sings a horrible song that scares her and calls mom to give her a tit.
- The baby is with the grandfather, but when it takes a while he gets bored and calls mom to give him a tit.
- The baby (whatever) and calls mom to give her tit.
And so one ends up saying "fuck, if he just wants me to give him a tit", because it seems that in the end you only reduce to that, a tit (or two) with legs, at least he tells Naya Rivera, one of the actresses of Glee, who explains it as one of the hard parts of breastfeeding, but that is not bitter enough to stop breastfeeding, because the positive outweighs the negative.
"You just give it to me to breastfeed!"
And that feeling takes hold of many women in such a way that men also feel, sometimes, a little useless. Because we are with the baby and he cries, and we wiggle him, and we dance, and we make the monkey, the orangutan, the parrot, the chimpanzee, the tigers, lions, everyone wants to be the champions ... and the baby keeps crying. And of course, we call them: "honey, cry!" That is a way of saying "come and give her the tit before a hernia is made or my eardrum bursts out," to which they answer "jolin, if you don't know how to calm him down! I've been with the tit out and it seems that you use it as an excuse to take it me ... ". But no, hey, it's just that we prefer that the child does not cry, although we would love to know how to calm them in some way, to not feel so lacking in breasts.
But come on, we understand you, nursing mothers, and we support you, when you tell us that you feel like a cow, or like a walking tit.
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