The statistic says that 1 in 3 women will suffer physical violence or gender violence throughout his life, often by his partner, and therefore Care norge, a humanitarian entity in Norway, has wanted to hit the table with a short film that speaks and leaves no one indifferent. Under the title "Dear dad, you're going to call me a whore", this video is going viral and shocking everyone.
Dear dad, dear mom, dear everyone
The short film is addressed to us, the parents, because we are men and because every girl and every woman has a father who would never wish her daughter any harm, but in reality it is nothing more than an excuse to reach everyone.
Gender violence, machismo, has been implicit in society for too long and it's really everyone's fault, and no one in particular. Of the parents because they were boys who perhaps insulted the girls (I have never told a girl a whore, but I have heard other boys insult the girls) or the boys, of the mothers because they were girls who perhaps also insulted the girls, or the boys, of fathers and mothers because they unintentionally continue to transmit machismo by expecting different behaviors and collaborations at home with their children, depending on whether they are boys or girls, and of everyone in general, because we must continue fighting so that, as the end of the video says, being born a woman is no longer a problem.
A generalization a bit unreal, if it were
I have been reading the comments to the videos in the original and subtitled version and there is much debate, which is positive. Some men have felt hurt because they feel they are accused of being abusers just because they are men, and even the typical ones who said that "don't wear a short skirt", "don't drink alcohol", "Well, no… ".
The video is shown as a generalization, but in reality it is not. It is not true that all women are going to go through everything that is told in the video, nor can men all be taken for granted. But nevertheless, it does represent what many women live and will live and that should not be ignored. It happens and it will happen, and we must reflect because violence is not only what is seen, it is not just the bruise, the beating, the insults or the murders. The violence is in everyday life, in small gestures, words, jokes and attitudes that make some men believe that they have the power, power or permission to do whatever they want with women.
It is an exercise to empathize, to try to understand what do those girls, girls and women feel that suffer from such violence that, let's not fool ourselves, is in the streets, in the environment, latent, whipping every now and then, and on which we all have to work, starting with the small details.
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