There are many adults today who missed, in childhood and adolescence, a closer relationship with their parents, in which things could be counted in confidence and receive advice in the times that are most needed. Perhaps that is why, having children, many decide to try to have that kind of relationship with their children, sometimes confusing it with friendship.
Come on, that many fathers and mothers relate to their children as if they were friends, and this can be a problem as explained by this mother, frozen in hand, to clarify why she does not care that her three children are upset with her: "I am not your friend!"
His name is Kristina Kuzmic and is a known YouTuber with more than 16 thousand followers. A few days ago he published a video in which he said that She is not the friend of her children because she loves them and UPSOCL captioned it:
Friends are at the same level
And he's very right, because a friendly relationship is the one established between two people who respect each other, they have love and trust, but are at the same level. One has no obligation to educate the other nor is he responsible for his future. In fact, they may even stop being friends because a friendship is mostly a voluntary relationship.
In contrast, the relationship between parents and children is at a different level (or should be), because parents have the obligation to transmit values to their children, to be their example in everyday life and to help them be good people.
If some parents act as if they were the friends of their children, they may run the risk of cultivating a friendship in the same way they do with their friends: letting them do, without judging, and sharing only on the basis of common points. That letting up can be very dangerous at an early age, because it is not the same to say to a child "I did not like anything to see how you laughed at that child" to tell him "do not see what face he has put when you have said that, no?".
Parents must be parents
It is true that we can be the closest thing to a friend to our children, but we must be parents. Parents and friends, to put it in some way, that it would be the way to define that the ideal thing for a child is that the parents are not only in the bad, but also in the good; Not only do they dedicate themselves to impart discipline, but they can be a playmate. I suppose that many of us want to say it that way because the definition of a father leaves us with the strange feeling that a father only does that, limiting too much (perhaps because our parents were like that), and we want to be much more for our children.
In other words, the concept of father should encompass the best of friendship (respect, affection, trust, communication) and everything that entails having a child: responsibility for the child, the need to educate him, transmit values and accompany him on the way to let you know when are you doing something we don't like and that he would not like it if someone did.
Once the children are older, the roles are redefined because the parents do not have to be so above when it comes to standards and can be more "friends" based on trust in the work done as parents. But that comes later. To collect, you must first sow.
