The positive parenting It is a way of educating children based on respect, empathy and a caring attitude towards them, as well as consistency and discipline. Calm, understanding and communication are its pillars as opposed to shouting, anger and punishment.
Communication with children is essential to establish a positive relationship of support and trust with them, so we collect 15 positive phrases to tell your children regularly and thus strengthen their self-esteem.
You can do it
Good self-esteem is the basis of our children's mental health. Let him know that he is capable of doing everything he wants.
I trust you
Few phrases have as much power for our children's self-esteem as this one. Know what we believe in them It will give them confidence for any decision or goal they set in life.
I can help?
Offer your help when they can't do something for themselves. But beware, that does not mean doing things for them. Autonomy is key to its development. If we give it all done every day, they will be unable to function on their own when we are not.
I understand how you feel
It is a way to validate your emotions. Although we cannot (or should) prevent them from feeling emotions such as anger, fear, sadness, it is key to convey empathy and give value to what they feel.
I like how you did it
We tend to highlight the mistakes of our children, but not so much the successes. Instead of being all day highlighting what they do wrong, start highlighting what they do well.
You can try again
It is necessary to let our children make mistakes and fail. Although we find it difficult, overprotecting them to avoid being wrong does not favor them at all. But when they are wrong, they will have us there again, encouraging them to try again.
I hear you
It seems that we are always distracted, and our children realize. It is important that we take at least a few minutes a day to talk with our children without distractions and practice active listening, putting ourselves at their height and giving them full attention. Show availability and interest in the other person.
I understand you
Understand the behavior of our children without judging them It is essential to establish a relationship of trust with them. It does not imply agreeing with what they do or validating bad behaviors.
I care about you
They are the most important of our lives, but have you let him know? Of course we must show it to you with our actions day after day, but it is also nice that we tell you.
Do not rush
Sometimes parents want them to grow quickly, but it is important to respect their own rhythms. Let's not overwhelm them. All learning takes time, it is a long process that advances step by step. Do not hurry up.
You're worth a lot
Each child is a unique and special human being. Mention your qualities, praise your successes without falling into exaggeration and talk about your mistakes with empathy and spirit of improvement.
You can always count on me
When they grow up, it is normal that they start trusting their things to friends and do less with parents, but maintaining fluid communication with our children is key, especially in adolescence. Let them know that you will always be available for what you need, unconditionally.
I love that you are my son
They are the most beautiful thing we have, we cannot imagine life without our children as they are, with their virtues and weaknesses. Show him that you feel lucky to be your father / mother.
You're right
We must not hesitate to give them the reason when they have it, as well as apologize when we are wrong.
I love you
And of course, to finish the prettiest positive phrase we should tell her at least once a day Everyday of the year.
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