We have already spoken on other occasions about how in the media, mainly the series and films, we see representations that are not realistic about some stages of being a mother, particularly the stages of childbirth and postpartum. Another representation we see frequently is that of the father who does not know how to do much and who depends on the mother for anything related to the children.
While this stereotype is something that is mainly used in humorous situations, a mother explains why we should stop making parents see themselves as incompetent.
A few days ago I shared the results of a study in which they showed that the way in which the mother reacts about the father's first interactions with the baby could negatively affect the quality of parenting that he gives his children in the future.
It is true that for a long time the upbringing of the children was in the hands of the mothers, but currently, the amount of parents who get involved and actively participate in the upbringing and care of their children It has increased considerably.
Gone is that belief that the mother is the only one capable of taking care of the children, and little by little she has been accepting and above all, understanding that the upbringing is two and that both dad and mom can do a great job as parents.
So, Why do we continue to represent parents as incompetent or as "the nanny"? Maybe it's time to change that, and a blogger mother, Kristina Kuzmic, famous for her videos about real situations of motherhood, shares with us why we should stop doing it.
Occasionally I have been asked to make videos making fun of parents. Although I understand that making parents see themselves as incompetent and stupid idiots is very popular on the Internet (and in the media in general), it is something I will never do and I explain why ...
For the same reason I wouldn't make fun of mothers. I support all parents.
Because I don't think that making fun of someone will make them transform and do a better job. It will only cause them to do less. (As I said before: Feeling like a loser has never helped anyone prosper in life).
I have children who may one day decide to become parents, and I refuse to create content that makes my children think that men are less capable than women to be great fathers or housewives.
No father is perfect. And that goes for both moms and dads. And if men talk about mothers, like women talk about fathers, it would be considered something completely unacceptable. So let's make it unacceptable to label an entire genre as inappropriate. And dads, know that you matter!
Kristina's feeling is one that many people agree with, especially those who have left comments on her post, talking about how her parents left a mark on their lives by participating always forms close in their upbringing, and others talking about how good it was for them to grow up with a single dad.
As she says, if things were reversed, we probably wouldn't see well that men made fun of mothers and make them see as incompetent or unfit for childcare.
Remember that Dad also matters, he is also able to do many things and well, and that he is not a babysitter nor does he expect to be applauded for fulfilling his obligations and responsibilities as a father.
