During some entries we have been commenting on some of the features that the high demand babies (which could also meet calmer babies, of course), and today I want to explain another of the “torments” through which we have passed through parents who have had children that could have been considered in high demand: car trips, considered as mission Impossible.
It all starts when you have few weeks of life. Sitting in your seat in the back seat, you soon realize that traffic lights are elements non gratos for him, since it is stopping for a moment and starting to release some gemidito that immediately stops when the green turns on.
It is not a worrying thing, in fact it is even funny: "Look what a little bug, how he likes us to move" and I would almost dare to say that it is a feature that most babies can show, since after nine Wonderful months floating and moving, notice that everything stops must be annoying.
The fact is that as time passes and your baby grows you realize that the traffic light has gone from being your only semi-occupation to be one of the many problems that arise when your baby enters the car.
What used to be moans are now cries and what was previously solved by circulating now only mom's arms solve.
It will be the other way around
You talk to friends, acquaintances and parents and all or practically everyone agrees that the car is one of the most wonderful sleeping pills that exist. You explain your case and observe how they are surprised: "Well, I had never heard that a child would not want to drive," a co-worker, mother and almost grandmother, once told me.
And I know that there are many children who do not go too well in the car seats, but I have not yet met anyone other than mine.
So how's it going in egg (you know, the one that is part of the stroller but is also a car seat in the opposite direction to the march), looking towards the back seat and you are not able to find a logical explanation why your child can not stand sitting 0.8 seconds sitting in the car you just think it will be the other way around.
In any case it is still very small, so at the moment you stay with the doubt and it is time to weather the storm as good as possible.
Contortionist mom and clown mom
If the child uses a pacifier or if he takes a bottle, something can still be done, but when he is a baby with breast milk you realize, Dad, that through the rearview mirror your wife adopts positions that you never thought you would ever see in a car: bent, with the tit out, on top of the child, digging into the ribs on the side of the seat and asking you to hurry but “don't run so much that with the potholes I get dusty”.
And the boy who doesn't sleep, and cries that he cries you, with some tears and ones macaroni that you think one more like this and dehydrates. You then opt for the second option: mom clown. Start taking rattles, keys, stuffed animals, mirrors, musical toys, toys that aren't and everything around you that may be able to entertain your child for at least a second.
Some days you have some success. Others, most, no.
Skeleton chair syndrome
Your child grows and, although you still see something small so that he looks forward, in the direction of the march, you decide to try, not that so much fuss came motivated because it goes the other way around.
Soon you realize that it was not that, that he cries equally, even if he looks straight ahead. Mom continues to play clown and now adopts new positions as strange or more than before, since now she goes with her legs forward, but with the trunk in a strange twist that causes the head to be oriented almost backwards.
And all this if you get your child to feel, because on more than one occasion I have seen myself calling to cancel plans "because the child does not want to sit in the chair." That said it sounds like an absurd father, but that in direct it produces dread, by the jumps, arches, cries, arcades and others that your son can do. And of course, in the end it is better to avoid it.
Time heals everything and the DVD helps
Best of all, over time, as children understand that the chair has no spikes, that mom is there by her side, with a present body, that the car is nothing more than a mass of four-wheeled irons that It takes you from one place to another and that the time you spend inside is limited, the subject is softening, the cries are diminishing and they begin to accept little by little to remain seated tied without living in the arms of mom.
In that process, the DVD helps a lot or at least it helped us a lot. A little bit of Pocoyo, a bit of Mickey Mouse and gives you time to make a trip of a few kilometers to go to eat at grandma's house.
Photos | Flickr - Mark & Marie Finnern, Eyeliam, Tiswango, Joe Shlabotnik
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