Less than two weeks to go by Father's day and you are going to forgive those of you who are parents (and that I am too), but it is a day that is still far from having the importance of Mother's Day.
It is usually said that "Mother there is only one," because the day that mom is sick, the day she is not in conditions or, directly, the day she is not, the house seems to fall apart and the children seem to need it more than never.
However, for a while now, more and more parents are becoming involved at home, who are actively involved in the care and education of their children and who manage to make the mother not so extremely indispensable at home. They are wonderful parents that are trying to give value to Father's day, so that there is some compelling reason to celebrate it.
Father's Day, after all, is one more day
The reason is obviously not that. Deep down it doesn't matter if there is a Father's day or stop existing. In my house it is a day that we did not take into account with my father (nor did it leave us more important) and now that I am a father, it is not a day in which I expect anything special, because I do not need it, I do not needed.
The reason that more and more parents are dedicated to the care of their children is that of not wanting to live the same life our parents lived, who barely spent time with us or, precisely, to live the same life as our parents, if they spent a lot of time with us.
Those who were lucky enough to have very involved parents realized how wonderful their parents were when they saw the parents of other children, absent, authoritarian and not empathetic. Those who had the bad luck of having poorly involved parents realized that their life could have been better if they had had one of those involved, caring and respectful parents who spent time with their children.
So one and the other decided that the best way to educate and raise children was to offer them time, dialogue and understanding. Giving them love and love and, above all, (and I know that I repeat myself) time to be together, time to share and time to create a solid relationship that allows them to meet and speak frankly. Thus, from close proximity, from trust, educating a child is much easier.
Dedicated to all wonderful parents
This entry is dedicated to all those wonderful parents, battlemates and fatigue, who talk about their children without blushing, who say no to friends because that afternoon they want to spend it with their children, who say no to overtime because they prefer to live with a little less, but seeing to your children for a while longer, who know why the backpack Guachipei it's better than Guachuipai, that they can spend several minutes next to their son, waiting with open arms to pass the tantrum and hug him, even in the street, before the disapproving looks that suggest ignoring him, that they can take care of them without disheveled (or good , ruffling a little, that we already know that we only know how to do one thing at a time) and that they are aware that who sows, usually collect.
They are aware parents that society is increasingly rigid, less malleable. She is increasingly ill, almost dying and practically devoid of many of the values that our parents tried to instill in us without, apparently, too successful (perhaps the forms failed, perhaps we did not know how to learn, perhaps ...).
They are parents aware of that who have decided to say enough, my son will come to this society knowing what is right and what is wrong, knowing how to respect and knowing how to be respected and will be a good man (or a good woman) and for that they educate their children. They do not punish them, they explain why they have done something wrong and the consequences that result from it. They don't hit them, they bend over, look them in the eye, and tell them what they expect from them and explain that they should treat others as they would like to be treated. They do not yell at them ... or well, maybe once, that it is difficult to get rid of certain inheritances, but they try not to do so and when they think they have exceeded, they are able to swallow their pride, hug their children and tell them that they feel angry so much and that, next time, they will try to do better.
If they are going to make their children good or not, I don't know. It is difficult to know because a child is not only educated by his parents, but also by his environment, but if I am sure of something, it is that these parents will do their best to make it so. They are wonderful parents. Hopefully they succeed, the world needs respectful, kind, creative, involved, humble, affectionate, educated and free.
Never fall, do not faint. Your children need you. Bertolt Brecht said:
There are men that fight one day and are good. There are others that fight for a year and are better. There are others who fight for many years and are very good. But there are those who fight a lifetime, those are the essential ones.
And in a few days ...
The Father's day and I wanted to talk about the parents. This entry is the first of a trilogy (I already look like Tolkien or George Lucas) entitled: There are parents who are wonderful, there are parents who are invisible and there are parents who have not evolved.
Photos | Serenityphotographyltd, c r z on Flickr
In Babies and more | Fathers fathers, Letter to my future father: “The day that is born”, A poem for Father's Day
