All of us who are parents, at some point, we have committed discipline mistakes with kids and it is not easy to educate children and much more when the most common these days is that both members of the couple work outside the home.
The mistakes we usually make when educating our children are very common and surely none of us can say that it has not fallen into any of them, we are going to tell you three of them that we consider are the most common.
One of the most frequent mistakes when they are small, are the phrases as a warning to scare them and that they do or stop doing something, as famous as: if you don't behave, the coconut or the sack man will come, etc. Usually, all we get is to scare the children to behave that time, but as soon as they are forgotten, they will act badly again. We must be clear, that we should never lie to our children, what we should try is to make them understand that bad behavior does not lead to anything, that thus, not only does one get what one wants, but on the contrary it angers others .
Another of the most common mistakes is threaten them with punishment and then not comply. The kids are very clever and know that when we warn them, they will stay in mere words with which they will not modify the behavior. All parents, we are clear that acting like the bad cop is not pleasant, but if our child is behaving badly, there must be consequences, if everything is in a simple threat, the children will not change because they know there will be no reprisals. What we have to do is let you know of the consequences that your bad behavior will have and if the child continues with this attitude, we must act accordingly and comply with the punishment that we have indicated, for example: there is no TV all day, no you go to the park, etc. In this way when the child repeats this bad procedure we will only have to remind him if it is necessary to repeat the sanction.
Last but not least, sometimes the parents take away the authority from each other, is something we do both parents and moms and with it the only thing we get is to damage the education of our children, who see who must go when they want to skip a rule. It is normal for one to establish a rule and the other to break the rule to please children, it is clear that without evil on their part.
Well, we must avoid these types of situations and try to share the same disciplinary ideas because this type of attitude to the only thing that leads is to one of the parents being the bad one. This does not mean that you should agree on the punishments, just that to bad behavior, the children know that the behavior is incorrect and that it has consequences.
If we try to avoid these common mistakes that parents make, we can probably see how the education of our children can be easier and more satisfactory for the whole family.
