Do you want to be good parents? Surely the answer is yes. Do you want your children to be happy in their childhood and have a good memory of their relationship with you? I bet you answer yes.
Do you want your children to be people with self-esteem, able to achieve their goals and fight for their dreams, disciplined and emotionally healthy? If you didn't want it, you need to learn to love your child.
We are going to explain some tips on how to get be good parents and avoid the most common mistakes.
The truth is that in life nothing is certain because not only we are the ones who will influence the lives of our children, but, at least, we will have done everything, everything, everything possible to be good parents. And good parents are the ones who make their children happy (really happy, not capricious or selfish), owners of their lives, strong in the face of adversity and full of love.
Express your love for your children
It is obvious, it is necessary, essential express love for children. How many times do you tell your child that you love him, that he is wonderful and that he fills your life with happiness? At least you have to tell him once a day and not do it in passing, but with feeling and consciously.
Well tell him more. He needs to grow up knowing that he is loved for how he is, and that he makes you happy and you are proud of him. If you convey that you love him, he will know how to grow by loving himself. Perhaps it is the most important thing to be a good father, to transmit our love to our children.
I have a great friend who always says that, before having her daughter, the person she has loved the most was her father. Her father never lived with her, he came to see her every month or every two months, he lived far away. He did not carry the funeral economic weight of his support, nor is it that things were especially good for him or that she lacked anything, but the fact is that he was not exemplary. He never tried to live with him, the careful his grandmother who was his true mother.
When his grandmother passed away he did not insist on going with him to live although she was only 17 years old (she had not accepted either) but he helped her, was aware of her and gave her the documentation so that she could achieve emancipation. But she loved him, madly, she loved him, do you know what he gave her to deserve that love? It made her feel loved, valued, admired. And that is the best gift she could receive from him, she loves herself because she knew he loved her.
And don't just tell him, show him with hugs and kisses. Do not leave him crying in his crib, do not take him away if he asks you for arms, do not be disgusting even if he comes in bad time. Put yourself in his place. Be aware that you are doing a very important job.
There are parents who, although they adore their children, do not know how to love them so that your children feel truly loved and everyone suffers away and hurting themselves, feeling lonely and misunderstood. Adults increasingly away from their children, children believing they are not good enough to be loved. Fortunately this can improve with parental skills and much, much, love.
