Something that usually brings us upside down are the Fights between brothers, do we cut or leave them?what to do?
We live in a violent society, and as much as we dislike it, violence is part of our lives and marks our day to day.
We may not be pulling our hair or hitting each other but we continue to compete in the same way our ancestors did. It is etched in our genes, it has been thousands of years of evolution and natural selection so that we now try to change all that in 15 days as it says.
It is true that the conflicts at the local level have been reduced, that we no longer deal with the neighbor because they have stolen our apples, at least in relation to the majority that still exists. This is nothing more than a social adaptation, it is not that Gandhi's spirit runs through our veins, we have simply become sophisticated.
We have gone from fighting wars in camps to fighting them in law firms or judicial courts. We have changed the dirt of the mud in the field, the viscosity of the blood and the bad smell of Napalm in the morning by emails, forms and ties. The pawns in this game continue to fall the same, only this time they do it with less noise and more aseptically. Even sport has gone from being a competitive game in peacetime to an expression of direct competition.
Do we set a good example for our children?
It is no good that we insist on repeating our children that does not stick, bite, insult, etc. If you look where they look, there is nothing but competitiveness, if it is we who encourage it, often unconsciously, that is true. The highest grossing films are the action ones, the sport is capable of moving huge masses of people divided into sides waiting for only one thing, have a good time? No. May your team win.
Competitiveness is healthy.
And necessary I would say. It is the engine that drives us to improve our environment, to be better every day, not to stop at one point and continue until the next, to never give up. Competitiveness is not always expressed through violence, stubbornness with which we so slightly accuse our children, wanting to do things for oneself, trying to reach goals beyond their means (or what we believe is about above its possibilities) is nothing more than pure competitiveness.
But what happens when that competitiveness is expressed through violence?
This is my own experience with my children, you know that every child is a world. My children tend to play quite a lot together, the age difference between them is a year and a half, this makes a priori one is attentive to their fights, which are daily. At the beginning you cut for the healthy thing for fear that the elder will hurt him, then you will see that the little one, not only knows how to take good care of himself but is also capable of handling the elderly, because this does not take into account the factor "I am going to hurt "than his older brother does.
One day, perhaps moved by fatigue, I let them decide when and how to end the fight and oh surprise the fight went from crying to laughter.
Do not believe that this is always the case, not even half the time, usually one of the two ends up crying and some of us intervening before the thing gets older. They are able to bring their competitiveness to the point of harming themselves, it is true that many times they do not measure their actions or their strength and that is when I have to mediate between the parties, send each one to his corner and let the game begin again .
My concern is whether I am intervening fairly or not. The eternal dilemma of Fights between brothers, do we cut or let go?
