If a moment ago we explained that Salma Hayek encourages women to breastfeed now, we explain Adele's opinion about breastfeeding, motivated by what happened to her son. When a follower asked her opinion about breastfeeding she was clear and concise in answering that the pressure on women to breastfeed is "fucking ridiculous".
A woman with no hair on her tongue
If something has Adele What most people like is that he has no trouble saying what he thinks. He gives his arguments, delivers his reasons and does so in interviews and, above all, on stage, which is precisely where he decided to talk about breastfeeding.
In the middle of her concert at the O2 Arena in London, a fan asked her opinion about breastfeeding (I don't know what, really, because I'm not going to a famous woman to ask about it) and her answer, just like that. As we read in Independent it was the following:
The pressure on us is ridiculous. All those people who press us, you can go to hell, okay? Because it is hard. Some of us can't do it. I managed as I could for nine weeks. But you should not be ashamed. All I wanted was to breastfeed and when I could not think 'if I was in the jungle, my son would be dead because I ran out of milk'.
He published burst into laughter and applause of approval, and that is Adele didn't lack some reason.
One should breastfeed because she wants to, not because she is told she should
And it is that a mother, a woman, has to be able to feed her baby as she considers best. And if you decide to breastfeed, you have to do it because you want and not because others tell you what to do. Here we have commented on more than one occasion: the question of "How do you not breastfeed?" It doesn't come to anything, because it seems that a mother has to justify herself with a "I tried anyway, but I couldn't."
And this should not happen, first because there are some that did not try and directly gave a bottle and deserve the same respect as the others, but they do not receive it because it is an answer that they do not usually like, and second because there is until they come in to ask " How much did you try? ", Because apparently there is a scale that measures the suffering from which the bottle is taken for granted.
If you suffered to tears, to pain and even madness, then okay. If you suffered a couple of days and went to the bottle, you take the critical review.
So no wonder Adele says it's ridiculous pressure and a waste of time for each other. Some looking guilty and the others feeling guilty. Some making value judgments and the others feeling judged. Some saying what is best, and the others feeling that they are told that they are worse mothers. Ridiculous.
When information is confused with pressure
And it ends up happening what should not happen, which then tries to report what is best for a baby, what is the logical food and which is the substitute, and many mothers complain about it because they feel bad because they think they are He says they are doing something wrong.
Be confuses information with pressure and thus it is not advanced. They are expected to be told "calm, which is the same" when it is not, and when they should simply think, "I know this is not the best for my son, but I decided to do so" or "I know it is not the best for my son, but I couldn't do it the other way. " And in this way, if someone asks you, if someone needs opinion, they can tell you the truth, that it is a "do what you want, but the chest is better", not that of "do what you want, because it is the same ".
Why? Because Ideally, all women who would like to breastfeed will achieve it., and only with that most babies would be breastfed. But to want to breastfeed you have to know why you want to do it, and one of the reasons that weighs the most is the desire to do for your child what you consider best.
And then there is the issue of power. Once the majority wants, they must have the necessary information to achieve it or, in case of not achieving it, to know where to go. That is why from here and from many other fronts we usually emphasize the need to have trained professionals capable of responding to breastfeeding problems and it is advisable to go to breastfeeding support groups from pregnancy when there are still no problems , and get to know them, knowing in advance what usually fails, why, and how it is solved.
So at the slightest problem they will know how to fix it or they will know where to go to do it and they will not be, like Adele, nine weeks nursing badly, with pains, tears and feelings of guilt, and telling themselves that if he lived in the jungle his son would die, when it is clear that he does not live in it. Come on, it is not surprising that I lose the forms talking about the pressure of breastfeeding ... with nine weeks suffering from breastfeeding I would say much worse things.
But that is the crux of the matter, which nobody should suffer from breastfeeding, but do it because you want and if you can not, find who will really help you solve it.
Photos | Adele, iStock
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