Nine months ago my twins were born and even when I see them together I think, "It's amazing! I've had two!" It is hard to get the idea because I must recognize that it is exhausting at some times but it is certainly an enriching and unique experience that only a few have the privilege of living. If feeling a baby move inside you is magical, you don't know what it is to feel two. That's why I'm going to tell you how I found out and what it felt like when I knew I was pregnant and two babies were coming.
I will start at the beginning of the story so that the change that a multiple pregnancy. I had always wanted to be a mom and I was very clear that I did not want to be left alone with a baby, that I would have two (my dream). At no time did I consider the option of a large family, perhaps because of space at home, because of logistics ... all this despite having enough background in my family: my grandmother had had twins, an aunt of my father triplets ... But hey, like It didn't occur to me. You think that you are not going to touch, I have nine cousins and a brother, the options were distributed, right?
My first pregnancy was not easy, it was a baby who arrived after a previous abortion and nine months of relative rest. I wanted so badly to have him in my arms that I still get excited to see him after remembering how bad I had to get to be a mother at last, to have my child rainbow.
When I decided, together with my husband, that we wanted a second baby, as happened with Izan, the long-awaited positive did not come. I was at that time when many of your friends begin to want to be mothers and stay at the first and yet you ... nothing. Every month I thought, I notice something strange, I'm pregnant for sure and I bought the test but negative. I ended up bought pregnancy strips to save a few euros because there were so many tests that made me that I was going to ruin my desire to be a mother.
When the positive comes with surprises
But one day the positive came and went in the same way as with my oldest son: as soon as I went on vacation, I relaxed, cleared my mind and forgot the worries. As I saw those lines in the test that same day I went to the gynecologist, I could thrill. The doctor who attended me, far from being kind, barely attended me and told me that you cannot leave so soon that you have to wait until eight weeks.
So I waited and looked for my trusted gynecologist. During my pregnancy in Izan there had been two professionals who had treated me during pregnancy and childbirth and had taken everything as high risk and I wanted to count on them again. At exactly eight weeks I showed up at the consultation. Of course, before that, my husband and I sat down with Izan and told him that Mom had a baby in the little train and that she would soon have a friend to play with. He was very excited!
Let's go back to the query. I remember as if it were yesterday that first ultrasound and our conversation.
"There is only one, right?" "Well, there are two and it is not a joke."It turns out that in the room there was a fairly large screen over my head and I watched the whole process live while my husband did it on the gynecologist's screen and there we saw how he focused those two "little balls".
I have a lot of confidence with her and I thought she was teasing me so I didn't want to scare: "It can't be!", "I promise you," he replied and continued exploring until I saw another circle and I thought "another baby!" "," Calm down Sandra, that's your ovary. " Then we got the beat of our two little ones. Do you know those movies in which there is a scene in which the protagonist is petrified and it seems that everything around him is going slower? That's how I felt. I couldn't help crying with joy. I got excited and I was so excited that this joy became bittersweet when the doctor told us that the heart of one of our little ones was a bit lazy. "You should know that sometimes in twin pregnancies only one of the embryos gets ahead." That phrase broke my soul and the world fell on me.
It was time to wait for the next ultrasound to check that everything was fine and that the two little ones got ahead. My doctor gave me all the documentation of twin pregnancy and told me that it would be a risk. He told me of possible problems and that in principle I was calm and made a normal life. Of course, the reviews from that moment were going to be so continuous that there was a time when I thought I was living in the hospital.
Photo property of Sandra Domínguez First impressions
Once out of the consultation my husband and I hugged each other and I couldn't help crying and I only had one thought. That was my third pregnancy. Life, circumstances or how you want to see it had made me have an abortion and that twin pregnancy was the way to give me back that baby, three pregnancies, three children. It seemed fair and I was immensely happy.
My husband kept smiling and his first sentence was: "we have to change the car." How? Is it the first thing you have thought? I recognize that at that moment I was surprised but it was not lacking a reason because at that moment I would begin endless changes in our life and our home to adapt to our large family situation.
The next thing was to tell the family. We couldn't wait to see them so we called them and to keep that memory we recorded the conversation to have that reaction forever. No one could believe it! At first They did not know whether to congratulate us or pity usIt was good news but obviously we expected a lot of work with three kids, we didn't know how much. I remember my father asking for forgiveness for having "given" his genes. It was so funny that I felt guilty while I was delighted.
I recognize that I felt vertigo, who knew it would be hard. Not so much for being two babies but for having another child of only 3 years old but he was happy. Also in my family the twins had always been a boy and a girl and I was convinced that mine would be too. I had always wanted to have the couple and not only would I have it but I would have a perfect team of kids.
A new fear also began. When you are going to have a second child you usually think, can I love him the same as the first? In my case Izan had been so desired, I love him so much that it was hard for me to think that I could love someone like him. Then I thought that I had always wanted to have a girl and if my twins were a boy and a girl, she would have earned her place, but what about the boy? I was very overwhelmed to think about it ... However life is wise and later in another post I will tell you how from minute one, the child managed to tell me "Mom you have plenty of reasons to love me as much as my brother".
Another momentazo was to tell Izan that instead of a little brother he would have two. I was very excited! We had some pregnant friends and he kept saying "yes, but my mom is going to have two babies." In fact, I think he thinks it is normal to have two brothers because sometimes he tells me, "Mom, my friend only has one brother" as if it were something out of the ordinary.
He told everyone. In fact today he is in love with 100% of his brothers and has never been jealous of them, in part I think because he sees that we do not have much time for any of the three individually and when we play, we play all five.
Photo property of Sandra Domínguez There were also unpleasant moments, situations that multiple moms have to face since pregnancy. When people find out that you expect twins or twins the star question is: have you done an in vitro? I'm sorry but I find unfortunate questions. If so, it is nobody's business and I think that a moment as beautiful as sharing a pregnancy becomes bittersweet for uncomfortable questions. So if in your environment you have someone in that situation nearby avoid such issues.
Probability of having twins or twins
Something that was quite funny to me is that when we told my family background, all couples begin to remember to see if they have relatives with twins or twins, if they can touch them, "they say that a generation is skipped." In fact in my case it was like that, my grandmother had them and now I and I think that many of my cousins have some fear of continuing to inherit that gene.
Talking to my gynecologist, he told me that twins are by chance but twins do have a genetic component. Although according to some research there are different components that can influence this type of pregnancy such as age, race, weight ...
And you, are you also a multi-mother?
