The arrival of children changes many things in an extraordinary way: our lifestyle, the rhythm of our activities, our way of thinking, family priorities, and so on. Among them, there is also something that changes: the dynamics with our friends, especially when you are the first to have children.
For your friends, it can be a bit difficult to understand that now things will change, and because of that, and based on my own experience, I share a message with which perhaps those who have friends without children will be identified: soon we will return, but now we must focus on taking care of our little ones.
Be the first or the only one to have children
On previous occasions I have talked about my experience being the only one of my friends who is already a mother, sharing how our relationship has changed, as well as the advantages of having friends without children when you are already a mother.
In Babies and more, what it is like to be a mom when you are the only one in your group of friends with childrenHowever, in some cases The transition to motherhood may end up affecting the relationship you had with your friends, even causing, that during this process you find yourself with the surprise that you have lost some friends. Do not worry, you are not the only one and many times it is part of life.
Some people think that motherhood serves as a kind of filter that shows you who your true friendships are, and from my point of view I think that if a friendship survives a change as great as the arrival of the children, it can survive whatever and even, an even stronger bond develops with your friends.
Some years ago I left my daughter's baby stage behind, but during that time I practically disappeared from the life of my friends without children. I stopped answering his calls and months went by without seeing or talking because I was busy or too exhausted to make plans other than sleep.
Now that my daughter is a little older, Little by little we have been recovering the time we lost and I see my friends more frequently. Our outings are not the same, because we have all matured and acquired a quieter pace of life than when we were young, but being together again is certainly something wonderful.
For this reason, and because this new stage of our lives as mothers can make maintaining friendship a challenge and a series of juggling to continue organizing to spend time together, I have decided to share this writing thinking of our friends without children, to make something clear to you: we have not abandoned you or forgotten you.
Dear friends, I promise that I will return, but for now I must take care of my little ones
Hello It's Me. The one that has disappeared a little after becoming a mother. Athough it does not seems, I think about you often and miss you. I no longer remember when it was the last time we went out alone, but I try to keep an eye on their lives, despite how complicated it can sometimes be to organize to see us.
Motherhood has come to completely change my life, and now all my energy and time are focused on taking care of my children. I feel very happy! But also, very tired. I am grateful that you are still watching me, and that you continue to invite me out even though most of the time I tell you that I cannot.
The days fly by and the dawn sometimes seems eternal. In many of them, when I find myself awake for whatever reason while the house is finally silent, I feel guilty and I think I should call them to see how they are doing, but then I realize that three in the morning may not be the best time to chat.
I would like to call you and say: "Let's go for coffee!"or"What do you think if we go to the movies?", but things are no longer as simple as before. Leaving home alone requires more planning, and honestly, although I am very excited to see you, the few moments I have free I take to try to rest a little.
Do not take me wrong, I am not too lazy to go out with you nor have I lost interest. Nor is it that you don't want to answer your calls. The truth is that I am busy discovering this new role and all my attention is dedicated to those little human beings who depend on me today.
Fortunately, our distance is only temporary and my little ones will one day grow and little by little they will begin to stop needing me as much as now. Maybe our outings are not the same as we used to have before becoming a mother, but they will certainly be just as special and fun.
In Babies and more Advantages of having friends without children when you are a motherMeanwhile, thank you for your patience, for following up on us, for visiting occasionally and for not taking my poor availability negatively. Thank you for reaffirming me, that No matter what happens and the changes that our lives have, our friendship will prevail despite time and distance.
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